Discussion of premarital sex has become more open than in past generations, Also sexual conduct has changed. More and more youths begin sexual intercourse at an early age, even at their teens. Premarital sex simply means engaging in sexual intercourse before one is married. This practice is very common among the youths of Ghana today, but the question is, is it good or bad? If you love each other why can’t you wait till you are married before you engage in any sexual intercourse? I am still a virgin. Is there something wrong with me? Questions like these are common among the youth of today.
What are the causes of premarital sex? Some may say it is due to the influence of peers. Friends who indulge in sex tell green friends about the interesting aspect of sex and may also lie to them in some cases. Some of the stories are, sex proves one’s manhood or womanhood and also sex is natural, they want to be intimate.
There are a whole lot of misconceptions about this topic in our society today. Some people even say that if one reaches a certain age and does not have sex, he or she becomes a fool. Up to date there is no scientific backing to this point. Some also think that premarital sex provides experience that can make for easier sexual adjustment in marriage.
It is common in some countries for wealthy fathers to take their sons to prostitutes for ‘education’ persons may feel that this is helpful. But it is really not, according to our creator, who has observed all human experience. Maintaining chastity beforehand lays a far better grounds work for happy marriage. Among the youth’s world we believe that engaging in premarital sex shows that you are a ‘wild’ or ‘hard’ guy. In fact, to be of youthful age and have no sexual desire or fantasies is very abnormal. But contrary to expectation, many youth have found premarital sex to be bitterly disappointing. There result is that they have the feeling of guilt and diminished self-respect. Some people realize there is no feeling of good or warmth of love as it is supposed to be. Some feel totally ashamed at their lack of self-control. Once a young couple has illicit sexual intercourse, they often look at each other differently. The boy may find out that his feeling for the girl has diminished; he may even find the girl less attractive. The girl on the other hand may feel cheap and exploited.
There are many diverse consequences of premarital sex. Majority of the teenage pregnancies are the result of our active actreriterous youth. Teenage pregnancy has its own problems such as abortions; abrupt ends one’s education and even death. There is also the issue of getting infected with sexually transmitted diseases such as AIDS, Syphilis, Gonorrhea, among others.
Research shows that married people are less likely to suffer from sexually transmitted diseases unlike those who engage in premarital sex. Many youth damage their reproductive systems due to this practice. Ignoring the Bible’s advice has also exposed many to another painful effect. Women who began their sex life in their teens with multiple partners have a match higher rate of cervical cancer- Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committed Fornication sinneth against his own body |1 Corinthians 6:18| religiously, it is wrong to engage in sex before marriage. The Bible is strongly against fornication. The Quran, we believe discourages premarital sex to a great extent. Looking at it from the traditional point of view, it is a taboo to even mention sex as youth.
Premarital sex is seen as wrong in Africa but in the developed countries such as America and Britain where the age often set for sexual relation is as low as sixteen they believe that God has a purpose for creating a developed sex organs at this age so they must be use as such. The youths of Ghana, do not allow such foreign culture values to mislead you. My fellow youths, let us stick to our bible and abstain from premarital sex. It may be very exciting and adventurous as at now but think of the consequences later.
The youths, let us learn to control ourselves to avoid this practice. No matter what the reason for premarital sex, no matter how common it is, no matter how counselors and clergymen approve of it, the Bible advises: – For this is the will of God, [even] your sanctification, that ye should abstain from fornication: 4 That every one of you should know how to possess his vessel in sanctification and honour; 5 Not in the lust of concupiscence, even as the Gentiles which know not God: 6 That no [man] go beyond and defraud his brother in [any] matter: because that the Lord [is] the Avenger of all such, as we also have forewarned you and testified.|1 Thessalonians 4: 3-6|
Written by: Pius Isaac Sedofia